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By: Chantal Redmond From my junior year of high school to my early twenties I found making decisions very overwhelming. Deciding which college to attend, which major to study, and what career to pursue made my head spin. On top of feelings of confusion, guilt, and failure, as a black woman, I felt pressured to […]

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By: Matebogo Kubeka ‘Black girl magic!,”Black girls rock!”,”Strong black woman!’ But what is it? A ‘black girl’? To many, this is really black and white. But to us that have struggled with this idea for years, this is layers and layers of questions. We can speak of colourism- you know, The light skin vs dark skin […]

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By: Domi Ah, yes, social media. We love it. We hate it. We love to hate it. Platforms such as Twitter, Facebook, and Tumblr provide Average Joes (and Josephines) with opportunities to release any frustrations, opinions, and emotions that swirl around the bustling whirlpools of our brains. For me, and tens of millions of others, […]

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By: Caylin Taylor I’ve learned many lessons in life, some that only impacted me for a short time and others that I carry day to day with me as a personal reminder. The most significant lesson I have learned and I am still learning is the lesson of self love in abundance. Many of us […]

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By: Yasmine Duncan Think of a leader. Picture one. Picture a leader in excruciating detail, the first image at the forefront of your mind. From their eyes to their energy, imagine. Look deeper into the image and ask yourself a few questions. What qualities do leaders have? What type of obstacles do they have to […]

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By: Channing Smith In Today’s world, we live in a society that’s so focused on individualism and constant comparison, so it’s an amazing feeling when someone notices something positive about us and lets us know. This act is known as complimenting. To most of us, receiving compliments is always welcomed and can instantly put a […]

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By: Vernesha Hazel The era of the multi-talented, educated, beautiful, “carefree” black girl could not have arrived at a better time in my life- or so I thought. Being exposed to various cultures and ideas is a rite of passage for all high school students that attend a school as diverse as the one I attend. […]

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By: Lateefah Jean-Baptiste Sadly we live in a society where the beauty industry continues to thrive off female’s insecurities and yearning to conform to the ideal perception of an attractive woman. With this comes waist trainer companies, diet pills, and protein shake conglomerations making millions off the insecurities of young women. When looking back at […]

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By: DeJoné Miles So, what do “they” really mean when they say “work on you” during your season of singlehood? Well, let me explain. Usually “they” say this after you either finally stop beating your head up against the wall and break up with that loser lover, or after you’ve been single for a while […]

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By: Nikiesha Neil How do you explain to someone that your 40 something year old cousin, Yum, and her 35 year old brother, Pooh, are coming over? Did I mention Pooh is short for, Poodah-Pooh? Like his sister, his nickname has been pared-down to a shorter version. If you’re like me, you start by saying, […]

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By: Kiara Sade When you think of black love, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Does your heart race rapidly? Or does it crumble like a pillar of salt? Black love is the strength passed down from several generations. It is the sacrifices our ancestors endured for us to survive in this […]

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By: Kamila Powell In life, we experience things that bring us joy as well as things that bring us pain. We may hear people tell us to “Get over it” when we confide in them, or we try to force ourselves to get over how we’re feeling. But what does getting over it actually mean? […]

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By: Shaunese Johnson “You’re pretty for a black girl,” You’re not loud like the other girls,” or “you’re not built like the typical black girl,” are just a few of the phrases I have heard throughout my life. As a African American woman, I feel as if society tries to define us based off of […]

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By: Shanita Brown I am one of the many successful black women who struggle with self-appreciation and value, which has caused me to put up with a lot of unnecessary things from unnecessary people, and subjected myself to unnecessary situations. If you can find a woman on this planet that is so confident in herself […]

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By:Althea Sylvester My mother is the strongest person I know, and she just so happens to be a beautiful black woman. I love her dearly and being close to such excellence is empowering. Ever since I was young I saw the strength in my mom and in the women around me. It helped me to […]

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By: Candance Greene It normally begins Sunday afternoon while I’m preparing dinner, helping the kids get through last minute homework, or trying to take an afternoon nap. That nagging feeling of anxiousness reminds me about all of the work I may have left undone at the office, the meetings I have to attend for the […]

The post Embracing God’s Peace for Your Week appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Andrea C. Imafidon and Satta K. Jallah As human beings we all need security, love, and social belonging. We all want to belong and receive love from others but at the same time we should want healthy, fulfilling, and satisfying love. It’s saddening to see us, as women depriving ourselves of this much needed love. […]

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By: Jasmine Bledsoe We have all been through it, not knowing how to properly love ourselves. We go around telling the world “I love myself!”, all the while we secretly do not accept who we really are. But ladies, I get it. When you live in a world that does not truly appreciate the black woman, […]

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By: Atinuke “You’ve become darker” “Wow your lips are so full” Those were two statements I heard so many times while I was growing up in Nigeria. They were not necessarily derogatory comments, after all they were facts about me, but they were spoken with such negativity. My parents would say it with a hint of […]

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By: Karolyn Cousin “ It sounds incredibly platitudial, but no one will ever be able to love you if you don’t love yourself. What’s beautiful about it is that if you love yourself enough, you don’t need the validation from anyone else.”-Leandra Medine[1] Making sure you get what you deserve and refusing to settle is […]

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By: Charmaine Griffin Imagine this: It’s a Saturday afternoon, you just happen to have some free time so you pick up your phone and you scroll through your go to social media channel (Facebook, Instagram, YouTube). You admire all the beautiful faces, flawless makeup and laid hair as you wonder to yourselves how these women […]

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By: Nicollette Davis Several years ago, I sat on the cold hardwood floor in my dark bedroom crying because I had no friends and no boyfriend. Even though I had an amazing family that loved me and cared about me unconditionally, at the time they couldn’t fill the emptiness. The emptiness could only be filled […]

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By: Essence Brooks Fear is simply a state of mind. If you perceive a situation, a place, person or activity as being scary then it will be. Life is all about perception, the way you see things. For example, if you say “today is going to be a long & horrible day” then it will […]

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Written By: Alexis Ditaway Dear Black Girl, I know that there are days that you look in the mirror and can’t find a single thing to love about yourself.I know that sometimes you walk around and wonder why you aren’t as pretty as “she” is; why you don’t have what “they” have; why everyone likes […]

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Can you tell us a little it about yourself? Hi! My name’s Jacque, I’m 24 and I’m a freelance social media manager, blogger, and I also created a course teaching young women how to create the online shop of their dreams. My educational background doesn’t quite match what I do, but I graduated from the […]

The post Black and Successful: Q&A With a Former College Student Who Launched an Online Clothing Boutique From Her Dorm Room appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Beverly Osazuwa Sometimes my black is not beautiful. Sometimes my black is heinous. My black can be pain, it can be rage, it can be the ugly cloud of thoughts, feelings, and harsh realities that follows me. My black can be an open wound but over time, even wounds heal, and although there remains […]

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Written By: Alexis Ditaway “Comparison is a true thief of joy.” The action of comparing someone else’s successes and accomplishments to your own can cause feelings of jealousy, hate, and self-devaluation. Now more than ever, this type of envy has manifested online, with people comparing their own lives to the lives others post on Instagram […]

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By: Chasyn Carter As a little girl, I always loved music and speaking. If it had a tune and I could find a crowd, please believe I was performing, but when I was in the third grade, I moved from my hometown in Kentucky, to Charleston, South Carolina. Of course it was different, different scenery, […]

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By: Cindy Anneh-Bu Now I am sure you have all heard or are familiar with the phrases, ‘She doesn’t have a body like a normal black girl’, ‘why don’t you have a big bum?’ or even, ‘where is your bum?!’ These are just a few examples of Typical everyday comments and questions that are casually […]

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By: Joshua Bennett 1. I wish I could put your voice in jar, wait for those lonely winter nights when I forget what God sounds like, run to the nearest maximum security prison and open it. Watch the notes that bounce off the walls like ricocheted bullets, punching keyholes into the sternums of every brother in the room, skeletons opening, […]

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Written By: Alexis Ditaway Since when did being a girl become such a competition? Society seems to have made everything related to being a female a contest. From careers, to who is dating who, to fashion, body image and everything in between. We have turned “being the best you that you can be”, into “just […]

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By: Aleaka Cooper There are about 50 different shades of melanin (is that reaching?). Well, there may not be 50 different shades, but there is a wide variety. With that being said: why must I feel inferior to my sisters of lighter or darker skin? People make it seem as though if you aren’t a […]

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By: Alexis Ditaway One complaint I hear among black men is that “Good guys do not win.” They insist that the black women that they desire are overlooking the “good” men who are willing to give them the time and effort they deserve, for the exes that do them wrong and men that only offer […]

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