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By: Alexa McLeod The relationship I have with my boyfriend is pretty strong; we trust each other, we value each other’s beliefs & opinions and we love spending time together. So then what’s wrong, right? People say that the only thing that should bring down a relationship is the “two of you.” I get that […]

The post Caught in the Middle: My Black Mom vs My Muslim Boyfriend appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By:Patty Johnson In today’s workplace what’s a better skill set, wearing the perceived labels of a knowledgeable and hardworking individual or truly inhabiting them? Even though I work in a major metropolitan city with a diverse population, most of my coworkers are white. But while working in a non-diverse environment is a problem, it’s not […]

The post When Privilege and Mediocrity Fuse in the Workplace appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By:Ayanda Gigaba (@agigaba) It’s no mystery why certain Snapchat filters are more popular than others. The humorous face warping filters, animal voice-converting filters and the neglected colour sketch filter all pale in comparison to Snapchat’s beautifying filters. Certain filters come and go but the fine technical engineers at Snapchat have offered us a longstanding staple […]

The post Snapchat Filters and Self-Love: Are They Helping or Hurting? appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Joy Caracciolo “All men are cheaters” “Guy are dogs” ” Men only want one thing”…. These are things that women in my family and friend groups have said to and around me since I was a young teenager; It’s like I was being prepared for heart break. I never wanted to believe any of […]

The post How Stereotypes About Black Men Gave Me Trust Issues and How I Overcame Them appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Kene’h L Genevieve A few months ago, a friend  of mine stated, “I want to marry a man from another race because we’ll have beautiful mixed babies.” As crazy (or maybe familiar) as it sounds, the girl I was two years ago would’ve agreed with her. I would’ve gushed at the thought of marrying a […]

The post “I Want to Marry a Man from Another Race Because We’ll Have Beautiful Mixed Babies.” appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By:Rebecca Blanc There are various groups of black women. Among us, we’ve got our organizers, our young folks, our old folks, our doctors and lawyers, our educated women, non educated women, and our everyday women. All these ladies regardless of status, so long as they oppose injustice, are conscious. We all see the societal wrong-doings and want the […]

The post Don’t Shame Your Sister: The Hierarchy of Consciousness appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Rachel Jackson @RachtheScribe In the interest of transparency, I’ll begin with a confession: I’m a weaveaholic. I boast an advanced degree in DIY Hair Extensions from the prestigious YouTube, and could rattle off a list of lovely ladies who can teach you how to slay your style through a computer screen. I’ve been twisting […]

The post Why Does My Weave Upset You? : Black Women and Perceived Appropriation appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: MarKeicha Dickens “Privilege” is a word that is used often in social justice spaces. Now more than ever we are demanding that everyone in society sit down and take a cold hard look at themselves in order to examine what privilege is, whether or not they have any, and how it is used. White […]

The post How my Gap Year Taught Me About My “Privilege” as a Black Woman appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Isabella Ntigbu When watching television as a child, I always tried to find the character that looked like me; black and female. I knew doing so would be hard because the sea of pale faces always overshadowed the colored ones. I made such an effort to find any black female character to provide myself […]

The post To Be Beautiful, Bold, and BLACK on Television appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Sia Once a month I have an epiphany. I completely reassess the way I have been living my life as of that moment and decide, against the glow of my computer screen that a change is necessary. With the words “box braid” typed and entered into the Google search bar, I stare in awe […]

The post Redefining My Image of “Pretty” and Opening My Eyes to the Beauty of Black Hair appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Janita Pegram The lack of diversity and roles available for people of color, is an issue prominent in the entertainment business these days. Historically, this isn’t surprising. This is mainly due to Hollywood’s idea of “attractive” (which hasn’t always been “dark and lovely”) and the scarce amount of black writers, producers, and directors behind […]

The post Being a Black Writer and the Pressures of Writing “Black” appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Makeda Phillips Picture this situation if you will; you meet a guy you really like and everything seems great. You’re meeting up regularly and are constantly exchanging texts. It really couldn’t get any better and in your mind the next step is to enter into a relationship with him. You’re happy with how things […]

The post How My ‘Situationships’ Ruined My Confidence and What They Taught Me appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Lateefah Jean-Baptiste Sadly we live in a society where the beauty industry continues to thrive off female’s insecurities and yearning to conform to the ideal perception of an attractive woman. With this comes waist trainer companies, diet pills, and protein shake conglomerations making millions off the insecurities of young women. When looking back at […]

The post Dear Slim Black Girls… appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Justine B. Street harassment has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. I’ve become almost accustomed to the loud—and oftentimes scary—old and young men yelling at me from across streets and subway platforms. Since street harassment is so common in my life (and many other women’s), I have […]

The post Don’t Touch Me, Bro. I Don’t Know You: My Experiences with Street Harassment appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Beylul Russom “How would you know? You’re straight so it’s easy for you.” It doesn’t make sense. What did I say? What did I do wrong? It truly left me speechless. It took me a couple of minutes before my conscious kicks in. Here I am, a straight black woman at a black queer […]

The post The Time I Had My Privilege Checked appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: DeeDee Walker There was this overwhelming sense of guilt that washed over me as I walked through the campus for the first time. This feeling was unwelcome, after all, I had finally made it. Years of hard work studying, doing volunteer work, and saving had all culminated to this point. I was an honors student at one of […]

The post I Don’t Look Like them and I Don’t Have To: Fat, Black, and Beautiful on A College Campus appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: DeJoné Miles As a young Black woman who loves hip hop culture and crusades for Black Love, Russell Wilson’s marriage proposal to Ciara hits a nerve, but in a good way. After publicly dating her and son in the wake of Ciara’s less than flattering breakup with ex-fiancée and rapper Future, Russell put a […]

The post Revenge of the Exes: 5 Lessons that Ciara’s Love Story Taught Us appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: DeJoné Miles So, what do “they” really mean when they say “work on you” during your season of singlehood? Well, let me explain. Usually “they” say this after you either finally stop beating your head up against the wall and break up with that loser lover, or after you’ve been single for a while […]

The post Season of Singleness: Getting Real with Yourself! appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Kiara Sade When you think of black love, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Does your heart race rapidly? Or does it crumble like a pillar of salt? Black love is the strength passed down from several generations. It is the sacrifices our ancestors endured for us to survive in this […]

The post The Art of Black Love appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Yaya Ketema Bryson Tiller became a phenom last October when he dropped Don’t via his soundcloud and later that month dropped his first album Trapsoul. Drake attempted to recruit him to OVO, Kylie Jenner was caught mouthing his lyrics on snapchat when her and Tyga were having a rough patch, and Kehlani claimed him as a […]

The post The Bryson Tiller Effect: The Normalization of Unhealthy Black Relationships via Trapsoul appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Quin Elliott “We aren’t going to claim that, LaQuinta. Pray about it and the Lord will see you through.” That was my mother’s response the first time I told her that I thought I was depressed. I just shook my head and left it alone. I didn’t realize at the time that my mother […]

The post Black Women Can Get Depressed Too appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Rachel Martin This past Christmas, I got my first Michael Kors bag. I just graduated from college in December, and I told myself that I could not purchase one until I got my first big girl job. I did not cave in, and it was not a present from a family member. It was […]

The post More Than Anything, Be a Friend appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Diamond Durant I was always told I was black. I was black, but not quite black enough or not black black but still black to say the least. I was told that in my life, I would have certain privileges. Privileges that darker women would not be able to acquire and I should be […]

The post The Secret Life of An African-American Light Skinned Girl  appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Marcy L. I sat there anxiously waiting by myself for the waitress to return with our order, and my date to get back to the table from the restroom. I hadn’t realized how nervous I was until I was left alone with nothing but my own thoughts to drown in. I couldn’t believe this […]

The post Did He Just Say What I Thought He Said? On Our First Date? appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Shaunese Johnson Walking down the street you see a gorgeous dark skin/brown skin sister. She has beautiful natural hair and her melanin is glistening in the sun. However she’s different from the rest. Her beautiful melanin is covered in ancient cultural art called tattoos. Is she deemed unattractive or undesirable by her own race? […]

The post Black Women and Tattoos: Beauty Enhancer of Feminine Depressor? appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Nicole Stevenson As a child I was always called cute or pretty, and aside from my extremely awkward preteen years I had come to accept this as fact. Even though I had insecurities about my appearance, like most girls, I had truly embraced that others around me might find me attractive. It wasn’t until I […]

The post “Beautiful for A Dark Skinned Girl” appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Kayla McKinney What happens when students attend a large PWI in the mid-west whose pride is directly connected with athletics? They go to football games, even more fun they go tailgating. I remember my first tailgating experience as an overall fun time. It was my first college football game and I was very excited. […]

The post A Message to the Invisible: Being Black at a PWI appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Brianna Little College is, for the most part, an enriching environment where anyone can find their niche. Despite being one of the oldest universities in the country, and thus unrelentingly dedicated to tradition, my school in Southeast Virginia is still home to millennials, who usually possess a more accepting and inclusive attitude towards diversity. […]

The post Stop Holding Their Hand:Why I Set Boundaries with My White Friends as a Measure of Self-Preservation appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Angel Okwuosa As I stand in front of the mirror, I realise that I can no longer avoid the inevitable. I pull my hair and hear its cries for attention. So with reluctance, I bring out my products. It’s Wash Day. I am very hesitant when it comes to washing my natural, 4c hair. […]

The post The Glaring Beauty of Shrinkage appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Tazhiana Gordon I am 25 and am lucky enough to have met the person I want to spend the rest of my life with years ago. My partner and I have been together for seven years, are incredibly happy together, and are steadily working towards that happily ever after. This would be a fairy […]

The post Yes, My Partner is White. So What? – Interracial Dating From the Inside appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Tyler Womack As I eagerly boarded the plane for Ecuador, my mind was filled with romantic notions of traveling through tropical rainforests, becoming a fully accepted member of my host family, and becoming perfectly fluent in Spanish. I was ready for the life changing experience that I would carry with me for the rest […]

The post Navigating an Anti-Black Culture Overseas While Studying Abroad appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Kandice Hill Multi-tasking at best at a MAC kiosk, I am talking on the phone and marking lipstick shade swatches on my arm in typical make-up lover fashion. And as I am flagging down an associate to see if they have a particular product, my boyfriend yells (as if he were watching football) in […]

The post Confessions of a Make-up Addict: YouTube Made Me Do It appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Whether you wear makeup you all the time or you’re a beginner looking to learn the basics, the women on this list can help you out. These women know their stuff when it comes to makeup and provide amazing tutorials and tips to help you out. This list contains black women of all skin tones […]

The post The Ultimate List of Black Makeup/Beauty Vloggers on YouTube appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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