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By: Aysia Bly Have you ever been in a bathroom full of drunk girls? I mean it is like a 360 from the way women are in the outside world. I saw a post last week that made me aware to that statement. For those of you that don’t know, drunk girls in the bathroom […]

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By: Reyona Hammond My dad is my twin, seriously. We both have the same birthmark, the same obnoxious laugh, the same round, button nose, the same arch-less feet, and we’re both Cancers. He was my best friend from age four to about age ten. We would have father-daughter dates every single day after he picked […]

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By:Hafeeza Shahid For many, dating is a magical experience. Going out, deep gazing into each other’s eyes, handholding and eventually falling in love is all par for the course. For myself, I’ve had similar initial experiences but the end results haven’t been as fruitful. I identify as a Southern, heterosexual, plus sized, black woman. I […]

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By: Sidney Apolonio The minute I turned and walked away from my mother in the St. Louis airport, I knew my life would never be the same again. As I sat in the airport terminal waiting for my plane to come in, the anxiety attack began its creep. Slowly at first,starting with sweaty palms, then, all […]

The post You’re Not in the Country Anymore: Rural Missouri to LA Edition appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Dashae’ Coley-Epps Although it was a windy night in the middle of December, I walked home from school in my cheerleading uniform, not bothering to put my jacket on. A knot grew in my throat, as tears disoriented my vision and the wind smacked against my face and bare legs. While tripping over tree […]

The post It’s OK Not to Be Okay: How I Learned About Vulnerability in the Midst of Heartbreak appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: MarKeicha Dickens “Privilege” is a word that is used often in social justice spaces. Now more than ever we are demanding that everyone in society sit down and take a cold hard look at themselves in order to examine what privilege is, whether or not they have any, and how it is used. White […]

The post How my Gap Year Taught Me About My “Privilege” as a Black Woman appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Isabella Ntigbu When watching television as a child, I always tried to find the character that looked like me; black and female. I knew doing so would be hard because the sea of pale faces always overshadowed the colored ones. I made such an effort to find any black female character to provide myself […]

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By: Sista’ Africana First off, I would like to provide a trigger warning, as this piece will be centered around sexual assault and consent. By telling my personal story, on how I’ve attempted to recover, and navigate life following this situation, I hope that there will be someone who can identify not only with what […]

The post When Saying No, Meant No To Me, but Yes To Him: Facing My Sexual Assault Head On appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Amber Canty I am a black woman, I will always be black and nothing can change that. I understand that not every mixed person wants to choose one race over the other but at the same time I do. My race is black and my ethnicity is multiracial. With that being said, I do have […]

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By:Shaina Hall I’m sure whoever said ‘sisters for life’, didn’t envision a black girl with long Havana twist running down her back and Kendrick Lamar bumping in her headphones to be included into the “sister” part of their historically white sorority; but here I am. In the midst of one of the most critical times […]

The post Who Says You Can’t? How I Found My Place in a White Sorority appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Beylul Russom “How would you know? You’re straight so it’s easy for you.” It doesn’t make sense. What did I say? What did I do wrong? It truly left me speechless. It took me a couple of minutes before my conscious kicks in. Here I am, a straight black woman at a black queer […]

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By: DeeDee Walker There was this overwhelming sense of guilt that washed over me as I walked through the campus for the first time. This feeling was unwelcome, after all, I had finally made it. Years of hard work studying, doing volunteer work, and saving had all culminated to this point. I was an honors student at one of […]

The post I Don’t Look Like them and I Don’t Have To: Fat, Black, and Beautiful on A College Campus appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Shaunese Johnson “One of the risks of being quiet is that other people can fill your silence with their own interpretation: You’re bored. You’re depressed. You’re shy. You’re stuck up. You’re judgemental. When others can’t read us, they write their own story—not always one we choose or that’s true to who we are.” I […]

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By: Kashia Wells “I ain’t never seen a black girl starve herself!” “That’s stupid, all black girls want to be thick.” “That’s some white people stuff.” These are some of the comments I’ve seen and heard, both online and in real life from other black people. I have memories struggling with my weight from such a […]

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By: Diamond Durant I was always told I was black. I was black, but not quite black enough or not black black but still black to say the least. I was told that in my life, I would have certain privileges. Privileges that darker women would not be able to acquire and I should be […]

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By: Maya Hughley Being a black woman has never been easy, but growing into a black woman without a black experience does not make it easier to be in a predominately white world. In fact, being a black girl at a predominately white college whose peers only interact within the same ethnic group requires you […]

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By: Miela Foster One day I woke up and I realized I was black. I was born in suburban Ohio. Everywhere I looked, I saw similar houses and faces. Immersed in a sea of homogenous culture my family stuck out like a sore thumb. However, I never felt out of place in my little suburb. I […]

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By: Denise Nichole Andrews The bell rings for lunch. I don’t know where to sit. Everyone else seems to find their friends but I just moved here. Besides, where is a girl like me supposed to go? A girl in studs and plaid. A girl that wears Misfits tees and beanies. A girl that skates […]

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By: Stephanie Babatunde _______________________________________ March 28, 2007 Dear Diary, I am still dark skin. I’ve been scrubbing my face really hard with soap and water for a while now but the darkness in my skin won’t go away. I pray one day I’ll be able to scrub the ugliness away so I can be a […]

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By: Beata F. Snelling I am 20 years old and until this past summer, I didn’t think that my Black was beautiful because it seemed like I was always told the complete opposite. Growing up half Dominican and half Black, I was always praised for being able to speak Spanish fluently and essentially just for […]

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By: Tife Kusoro There I was, no more than a few days ago, walking out of a classroom after being called ‘blick’ by a teacher. It is a word that is so well acquainted with my ears that I no longer have to listen properly to hear it. Blick. My childhood overflowed with endless remarks […]

The post From Nigeria to the UK: How I Learned to Love My Dark Skin appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Tyler Womack As I eagerly boarded the plane for Ecuador, my mind was filled with romantic notions of traveling through tropical rainforests, becoming a fully accepted member of my host family, and becoming perfectly fluent in Spanish. I was ready for the life changing experience that I would carry with me for the rest […]

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By:Alex Being a black girl was never an issue to me, especially being lucky enough to be of Caribbean descent. Relatives constantly imprinting on you that “your black is beautiful”, “everyone is equal”, “your skin shouldn’t be the obstacle only the drive”. But as I grow up, evolve and ascend into adulthood, I realized one […]

The post Overcoming Sexual Abuse: It’s Not Your Fault, It Never Was and It Never Will Be appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Etta Joy In an article I recently read, the writer desperately tells dark skinned girls to stop using skin bleaching products . She says and I quote, “your skin is not dirt that needs to cleaned out like yesterday’s shirt.” That line got me thinking, why do people think that bleaching your skin is the proper thing to do when […]

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By: Aaliyah Gray Growing up in a Caribbean community presented me with many complications such as: 1. The idea that curlier hair textures are more beautiful than kinkier textues 2. The idea that kinky hair is unkempt and “nappy” 3. The idea that kinkier textures should be relaxed or chemically altered. 4. The idea that […]

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By: Erinn Budd 21-year-old college senior, with two jobs, a radio show, and involved in multiple student organization. I worked hard, but it was all to buy my mom a house as a long-term goal. Who knew that life could change with one phone call?It was a Tuesday morning. September 9, 2014. I was running […]

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Life as a Black Girl, Mental Health -

  By: Emerald Rutledge First, I would like to preface this piece by saying that I too am that black girl who was raised in a family where mental illness just was not a reality. It was always something that “them white folks had” and “black folks don’t have that.” I am sure that the […]

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Dark Skin, Issues, Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By:Elise Nabelle As a dark skinned girl of African descent, having grown up in London with many cultures and races around me, I always believed and understood myself to be proud of my identity, race and culture. I was always aware of direct racism, like the KKK, the Apartheid and the US Civil Rights movement, […]

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By: Paula Assou “Got a big booty, so I call her big booty.” “I found you Ms. New Booty.” And the list goes on. We’ve all heard lyrics like these at some point or another praising the females blessed with a large derriere. It’s almost impossible to avoid in mainstream music. However, as a black […]

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By: Zoe Hobson Growing up, I heard “what are you” more times then I can keep track of. Out of innocence my natural response started as “American of course”, and quickly turned into a forced smile and a reluctant “I’m mixed”.I never understood why white people were so perplexed with my light skin and kinky […]

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By: Melissa Issa-Boubé Comments of my skin tone filled my childhood and adulthood. When I was born, on my birth certificate, the nurse labeled my race as “chocolate,” a tag that remains today. Catcalling men yell, “Hey sweet chocolate!” and women often ask for my skin care regimen. I have heard people say, “Your skin tone […]

The post #MelaninEVERYDAY: Growing Up Dark and Loving It appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Elizabeth Law The question that inevitably permeates through countless other thoughts and surfaces in most Black minds after we’ve been terminated suddenly is, “Is it because I’m Black?” No matter how much we may fight the question and the realities it presents, we usually find ourselves lingering, unable to truthfully commit to “No” being […]

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By: Piper Lewis People constantly ask me where I come from- they’re expecting some interesting answer, and are always disappointed and confused when I tell them that I grew up in Altadena, California. To the people asking me this question, my answer is never enough. They don’t understand that a brown girl with curly hair […]

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