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So, you won’t let your partner support you because you think it’s anti-feminist. Isn’t doing whatever the f&*k you want the most feminist thing of all?

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By: Taisiah Amina There are a lot of negative stereotypes that follow black women and one in particular that I dislike is the way that black women are portrayed in the media and society as strong, independent, resilient and stubborn. The list goes on and makes it seem as if we don’t need to depend […]

The post How My Breakup Taught Me to Let Go of Stereotypes appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Adrienne Martin It’s that time of year again. The leaves are turning their shades of red and orange, soon to abandon their branches as they fall to the ground. The temperature is quickly getting colder, and frost faithfully greets us in the wee hours of the morning. Layering is now the day-to-day fashion trend, […]

The post Tis The Season to Avoid “Cuffing Season” appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Reyona Hammond My dad is my twin, seriously. We both have the same birthmark, the same obnoxious laugh, the same round, button nose, the same arch-less feet, and we’re both Cancers. He was my best friend from age four to about age ten. We would have father-daughter dates every single day after he picked […]

The post Lessons My Absentee Father Taught Me About Love – And Myself appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Alexa McLeod The relationship I have with my boyfriend is pretty strong; we trust each other, we value each other’s beliefs & opinions and we love spending time together. So then what’s wrong, right? People say that the only thing that should bring down a relationship is the “two of you.” I get that […]

The post Caught in the Middle: My Black Mom vs My Muslim Boyfriend appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Joy Caracciolo “All men are cheaters” “Guy are dogs” ” Men only want one thing”…. These are things that women in my family and friend groups have said to and around me since I was a young teenager; It’s like I was being prepared for heart break. I never wanted to believe any of […]

The post How Stereotypes About Black Men Gave Me Trust Issues and How I Overcame Them appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By:Desiree Johnson As a biracial woman, I have always been able to keep an open mind and level head when choosing my partners in relationships. While I have my standards and deal breakers like any other person, I have always been adamant that race will never be a factor in that. The majority of my […]

The post Dating a Black Man Does Not Mean He Will Defend my Blackness appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By:Hafeeza Shahid For many, dating is a magical experience. Going out, deep gazing into each other’s eyes, handholding and eventually falling in love is all par for the course. For myself, I’ve had similar initial experiences but the end results haven’t been as fruitful. I identify as a Southern, heterosexual, plus sized, black woman. I […]

The post The Follies of DWBB (Dating While Big and Black) appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Rebecca Smith I broke up with a boy who I thought I was going to be with forever. At fifteen he and I decided that we had too much chemistry to not be in a relationship, so we started officially dating. It was weird for me at first because I considered myself unattractive due to […]

The post Getting My Heart Broken Young and What It taught Me About Love appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Britt Dior It was Christmas morning and the whole family was celebrating because my younger sister’s boyfriend had just proposed to her. I was happy for her and celebrating too, but I was also checking my phone every 10 minutes to see if I had gotten a “Merry Christmas” text from the man who […]

The post How I Accepted My Failed Relationship in the Midst of My Sister’s Engagement appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By:Rochelle Justin I was brought up  in a middle class West Indian household with both parents. Growing up, I was raised on “black love” and what  being a strong black woman meant in a society where we are told we may not be good enough. My father made sure to teach me about my influence […]

The post Who Says You Cant?: Loving My Blackness, and a White Man at the Same Time appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Makeda Phillips Picture this situation if you will; you meet a guy you really like and everything seems great. You’re meeting up regularly and are constantly exchanging texts. It really couldn’t get any better and in your mind the next step is to enter into a relationship with him. You’re happy with how things […]

The post How My ‘Situationships’ Ruined My Confidence and What They Taught Me appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: DeJoné Miles As a young Black woman who loves hip hop culture and crusades for Black Love, Russell Wilson’s marriage proposal to Ciara hits a nerve, but in a good way. After publicly dating her and son in the wake of Ciara’s less than flattering breakup with ex-fiancée and rapper Future, Russell put a […]

The post Revenge of the Exes: 5 Lessons that Ciara’s Love Story Taught Us appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: DeJoné Miles So, what do “they” really mean when they say “work on you” during your season of singlehood? Well, let me explain. Usually “they” say this after you either finally stop beating your head up against the wall and break up with that loser lover, or after you’ve been single for a while […]

The post Season of Singleness: Getting Real with Yourself! appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Reanna Teape So, you’re casually on twitter or you just downloaded Tinder in hopes of interacting with an interesting guy. You see his profile, yes, he’s ticked all your boxes but yet there are still reservations. The last episode of Catfish is still playing in your mind, because you’re not sure that he’s real […]

The post Does It Go down or Downhill in the DM’s? appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Alexandria W. As young girls growing up, we never cease to hear our parents, family members, and those adults we look up to tell us “If you don’t love yourself, nobody will.” I never truly understood why everybody preached that, and never grasped the FULL meaning of these words until recently. If you’ve read this […]

The post How Having “Me Time” Led to a Great Relationship appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Yaya Ketema Bryson Tiller became a phenom last October when he dropped Don’t via his soundcloud and later that month dropped his first album Trapsoul. Drake attempted to recruit him to OVO, Kylie Jenner was caught mouthing his lyrics on snapchat when her and Tyga were having a rough patch, and Kehlani claimed him as a […]

The post The Bryson Tiller Effect: The Normalization of Unhealthy Black Relationships via Trapsoul appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Rachel Martin This past Christmas, I got my first Michael Kors bag. I just graduated from college in December, and I told myself that I could not purchase one until I got my first big girl job. I did not cave in, and it was not a present from a family member. It was […]

The post More Than Anything, Be a Friend appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Marcy L. I sat there anxiously waiting by myself for the waitress to return with our order, and my date to get back to the table from the restroom. I hadn’t realized how nervous I was until I was left alone with nothing but my own thoughts to drown in. I couldn’t believe this […]

The post Did He Just Say What I Thought He Said? On Our First Date? appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Karabo Matsoso It has been exactly a month and a day since my current ex-boyfriend and I broke up and it has been so difficult because the urge to go back to him never goes away. Always haunting me. Reminding me of my loneliness. Reminding me of the beautiful memories we created. And reconsidering […]

The post The Depreciating Value of the Black Man: Are Black Women To Blame? appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Tazhiana Gordon I am 25 and am lucky enough to have met the person I want to spend the rest of my life with years ago. My partner and I have been together for seven years, are incredibly happy together, and are steadily working towards that happily ever after. This would be a fairy […]

The post Yes, My Partner is White. So What? – Interracial Dating From the Inside appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Quin Elliott “Quin you need to talk to someone, you have to get help you’re not healthy, this is not okay”. My best friend and I were screaming at each other after another argument over my ex, who had somehow caused another area in my life to spin out of control without even noticing or […]

The post How Searching For Validation in a Man Lead me Into Depression appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Tyra Davis You can love a man without losing yourself. Your love can be healthy, joyful, and educational if you let it. Love does not have to compromise your independence as a woman. Women of color have pain, strength, wisdom, and overcoming obstacles embedded in the webbings of our veins. From the beginning, the […]

The post Strong Women Can Still Love appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Jessica King Greetings Black Queens, “It is better to have loved and lost…than to have never loved at all.” Upon discovering this quote I was in awe thinking I will never want to undo the precious moments that love will afford me. Now, I often wonder if this quote applies also to loosing yourself? […]

The post To have loved and lost: A Romantics’ Tragic Anecdote of Overcoming the Loss of Self-Love. appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: AkinWrites @msakinnuoye As much as some women fight the fact that that they enjoy the company of a man, the fact still remains. We love, and at times even love men. We love the way they make us feel, we love the attention they give us, we love the small arguments we have with […]

The post He’s Your Man Not Your Father appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Shea Harris For some reason, I thought I had to be perfect in relationships. The fear of failing at them scared me. I didn’t want to be the angry black woman or the successful black woman that couldn’t keep a man. I figured if I sacrificed enough, I could be the perfect mate. Attempting […]

The post The Most Important Type of Love appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Kency D. I am a huge fan of marriage, but I am here to tell you that it’s not for the weak of heart. In fact, it is my opinion that marriage is the hardest endeavor one can ever undertake, especially in this day in age according to writer Anthony D’ Ambrosio, a Contributor for […]

The post To Marry or Not to Marry? appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Kandice Hill Older women know how to find and stay in-love. That was what I used to tell myself. I see older couples in the mall or at church or at the nearby Piccadilly cafeteria holding hands, showing off their twenty to forty year old relationships with innocence and grace. Every now and then […]

The post Old Grass Ain’t Always Green Either: The Downsides of Going to Older Women For Advice appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Ryan D. Daniels I always imagined myself marrying my “equal” or what I perceived to be my equal. He had to have a college degree and he had to make a certain income. I thought these things were what it really took for a man to be my “equal” in life. But what I […]

The post Dating Down? The Allure of a Blue Collar Brother appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Jerrica K. Wiley I am a unicorn. I mean it. I am a freaking unicorn. Not a rainbow unicorn but a black one. Yea. I’m a black unicorn. Why am I a unicorn? Because I am a very rare type of woman, that is, according to this guy I was talking to. It was […]

The post The Struggles of Dating as a 20-something Year Old Virgin appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Karolyn Cousin “ It sounds incredibly platitudial, but no one will ever be able to love you if you don’t love yourself. What’s beautiful about it is that if you love yourself enough, you don’t need the validation from anyone else.”-Leandra Medine[1] Making sure you get what you deserve and refusing to settle is […]

The post Get What You Deserve appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Gabrielle Perry “I love you…” “Okay…” Imagine standing in front of a man you’ve deemed your heart’s desire, your true love, professing that love, and him telling you “Okay.” This was the situation I found myself in. This man knew everything about me, secrets I will take to my grave, and was present during […]

The post It’s Time We Stop Settling For Bad Relationships appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Alexis Ditaway Love is something that defies standard, goes beyond expectations, and breaks limitations. When it is real, it is something you cannot control, and something you cannot ignore. This is something that I believe in, and fully support. Therefore, before I go further, let me say this:I do not hate, dislike, or look […]

The post Black Men Who Refuse to Date Black Women appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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