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Confident and self-assured is what being grown looked like to me and grown women love themselves  -- or at least they should.

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an hour with her, debbie allen, External Videos, News, self confidence, self-esteem, Shonda Rhimes -

Debbie Allen worked with Shonda Rhimes and Dove to produce a short film about self-esteem. We also talked to her about beauty standards, Grey's Anatomy & more.

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By: Lateefah Jean-Baptiste Sadly we live in a society where the beauty industry continues to thrive off female’s insecurities and yearning to conform to the ideal perception of an attractive woman. With this comes waist trainer companies, diet pills, and protein shake conglomerations making millions off the insecurities of young women. When looking back at […]

The post Dear Slim Black Girls… appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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College, Featured, Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By: DeeDee Walker There was this overwhelming sense of guilt that washed over me as I walked through the campus for the first time. This feeling was unwelcome, after all, I had finally made it. Years of hard work studying, doing volunteer work, and saving had all culminated to this point. I was an honors student at one of […]

The post I Don’t Look Like them and I Don’t Have To: Fat, Black, and Beautiful on A College Campus appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Cheyenne Baltimore Loving my skin didn’t just happen in a day, a week, a month or a year but it took a developing lifetime of self-love and identity of not just myself but my culture. I used to spend my time focused in the old mirror of my grandparent’s bathroom, scratching my skin as […]

The post When I First Loved my Skin appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Shaunese Johnson “You’re pretty for a black girl,” You’re not loud like the other girls,” or “you’re not built like the typical black girl,” are just a few of the phrases I have heard throughout my life. As a African American woman, I feel as if society tries to define us based off of […]

The post Loving Yourself: The Ultimate Challenge appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Life as a Black Girl, Mixed Race, Self-Esteem -

By: Beata F. Snelling I am 20 years old and until this past summer, I didn’t think that my Black was beautiful because it seemed like I was always told the complete opposite. Growing up half Dominican and half Black, I was always praised for being able to speak Spanish fluently and essentially just for […]

The post Growing up Mixed: Why I l Loved Being Dominican But Struggled With Being Black appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Dark Skin, Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By: Tife Kusoro There I was, no more than a few days ago, walking out of a classroom after being called ‘blick’ by a teacher. It is a word that is so well acquainted with my ears that I no longer have to listen properly to hear it. Blick. My childhood overflowed with endless remarks […]

The post From Nigeria to the UK: How I Learned to Love My Dark Skin appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Hair, Self-Esteem -

By: Angel Dawson I have been Team Natural all my life. Perms and relaxers have always been the enemy. We’ve had the Batman and Joker or Superman and Lex Luthor kind of relationship since the beginning of time. Growing up the almighty afro was my go-to hairstyle. I remember days where I found myself envious […]

The post I Am More Than Just My Hair appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Blog Post, Dark Skin, Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By: Etta Joy In an article I recently read, the writer desperately tells dark skinned girls to stop using skin bleaching products . She says and I quote, “your skin is not dirt that needs to cleaned out like yesterday’s shirt.” That line got me thinking, why do people think that bleaching your skin is the proper thing to do when […]

The post Put Down the Skin Bleach: Dark Skin is Not a Sin appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Monica Windom Now i’m sure everyone within the black female community is aware of what colorism is. For those not familiar, let’s briefly catch you up! Colorism is the discrimination against darker skin tones and it happens typically within the same racial group. It once affected my views on myself because it made me feel […]

The post A Guide to Overcoming Colorism appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Hair, Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By: Aaliyah Gray Growing up in a Caribbean community presented me with many complications such as: 1. The idea that curlier hair textures are more beautiful than kinkier textues 2. The idea that kinky hair is unkempt and “nappy” 3. The idea that kinkier textures should be relaxed or chemically altered. 4. The idea that […]

The post Kinky Hair is Good Hair appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Issues, Self-Esteem -

By: Jehniece Moore They told us our kinks and curls weren’t beautiful, they told us our skin was too dark, they made fun of us for how our skin reacts to the sun. We were only considered “beautiful” if we had green eyes, light skin, long hair, and mixed with Spanish or white. We were […]

The post Black is Back (With A Few Minor Technical Difficulties) appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Dark Skin, Issues, Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By:Elise Nabelle As a dark skinned girl of African descent, having grown up in London with many cultures and races around me, I always believed and understood myself to be proud of my identity, race and culture. I was always aware of direct racism, like the KKK, the Apartheid and the US Civil Rights movement, […]

The post Unlearning Internalized Misogynoir appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Featured, Issues, Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By: Paula Assou “Got a big booty, so I call her big booty.” “I found you Ms. New Booty.” And the list goes on. We’ve all heard lyrics like these at some point or another praising the females blessed with a large derriere. It’s almost impossible to avoid in mainstream music. However, as a black […]

The post Reflections on Self-Acceptance from Ms. New Booty appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Blog Post, Self-Esteem -

By:Ashton Toone People often say, “You can pick your friends, but you can’t pick your family.” But what if I consider my friends to be my family? I can’t help but believe that statement still applies, because it isn’t by accident that I’m surrounded by incredible black women that I can look up to, be […]

The post We All Need a Squad appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Jasmine Bledsoe We have all been through it, not knowing how to properly love ourselves. We go around telling the world “I love myself!”, all the while we secretly do not accept who we really are. But ladies, I get it. When you live in a world that does not truly appreciate the black woman, […]

The post Selfie Check! How Do I Love Me? appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Life as a Black Girl, Mixed Race, Self-Esteem -

By: Piper Lewis People constantly ask me where I come from- they’re expecting some interesting answer, and are always disappointed and confused when I tell them that I grew up in Altadena, California. To the people asking me this question, my answer is never enough. They don’t understand that a brown girl with curly hair […]

The post A Brown Girl Trying to Find Makeup in a White World appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By: Sierra Sawyers I didn’t date at all in high school. A lot of the boys I went to school with didn’t pay much attention to me. I say “much” because, the attention I received was in no way given in positive light. These boys I remember feeding me this negative attention were mostly black. […]

The post Why Don’t They Like Me? Discovering My Own Black Beauty appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By: Cassandra Edwards I am not sure what kind of joke was being played when I was created but the life I was dealt could not have been deliberate. Growing up black was one thing, something I thought I could handle with my hands tied behind my back. Growing up in St. Louis, Mo which […]

The post Struggling to Defy the Odds: Overcoming Homelessness, Sexual Abuse, and Death appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Colorism, Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By: Rachel Anderson Now don’t get me wrong, I have always known I was adopted. Take one look at my parents and then me. Either they’ve severally tanned me since birth, and changed every one of my physical traits to the opposite of theirs, or they’re not my biological parents. Yeah, I’m gonna go with […]

The post The Struggles of Being a Transracial Adoptee appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Issues, Self-Esteem -

By: Jameela E. Pruitt Contrary to the complexes that are openly discussed by many black women about not feeling beautiful, good enough, or accepted, there is a current culture of young black women who are not affected by this struggle.  A generation of women who beat their face with “beauty,” put on confidence daily, and […]

The post Do “Beautiful” Black Girls Define the New “Ugly”? appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By: Kiera Lewis As a little girl, your first real love is for your father. After all, he’s always there to pick you up when you fall, scare the monsters underneath your bed away, and even teach you how to ride a bike. The first relationship a woman will ever experience with a man is […]

The post Not a Daddy’s Girl appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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By: Charmaine Griffin Imagine this: It’s a Saturday afternoon, you just happen to have some free time so you pick up your phone and you scroll through your go to social media channel (Facebook, Instagram, YouTube). You admire all the beautiful faces, flawless makeup and laid hair as you wonder to yourselves how these women […]

The post The Facade of Social Media appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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High School, Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By:Ajaika McLemore We’ve all been there before: that moment when you’re sitting in your history class, and the topic of slavery comes up. All eyes turn to you, and you cringe. Or when you’re sitting in the lunchroom, listening to your music a little too loud, and maybe this time it’s not the latest Drake […]

The post That Familiar Look appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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High School, Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By: K.D. Wrights Everyone has a life, some short and others long. Everyone has their own sense of living that life happily, whether they have supporters or not. Everyone has a name, with a story following it. Well, I have a name and story to tell. My name is Kayla and I am a Black […]

The post Black and Bullied appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Colorism, Dark Skin, Life as a Black Girl, light skin, Mixed Race, Self-Esteem -

By: Madison Jones As a biracial child, growing up in a white household was definitely detrimental to my development into a woman of color but through the detriment I was able to learn a lot about myself. Having no knowledge of my race caused the majority of my life to be a period of insecurity […]

The post Growing Up Biracial in a White Household appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Life as a Black Girl, light skin, Mixed Race, Self-Esteem -

By: Akoiya Harris Dear fellow People of Color, Please don’t tell me I choose my black side. I did not choose anything, because just like you I was born black. My melanin may not be strong, but it is still something I was blessed to have not choose to have. Unlike our white counterparts, my […]

The post Dear Fellow People of Color (POC) appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Featured, Issues, Self-Esteem -

By: Gabrielle Perry Do you know what I remember most about being in prison? How incredibly nice everyone was. Twenty years old and handcuffed in the backseat of a police cruiser taking the long ride across town to the parish prison and my arresting officer asks me if my handcuffs were too tight, if I […]

The post Strength in “Weakness”: Dispelling the Black Woman Superhero Complex appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Colorism, Dark Skin, Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By: Marsae Johnson If I had a dollar for every time I heard   “you’re pretty for a dark girl” Bill Gates wouldn’t even be on my level. And what does that even mean? “You’re pretty for a dark girl” like beauty is forbidden fruit to those blessed with melanin. I know way too many dark […]

The post Token Dark Girl appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Colorism, Life as a Black Girl, light skin, Mixed Race, Self-Esteem -

By: Shanae Cain Growing up I have questioned myself countless times “Where do I fit in?” My skin has defined me. My hair has defined me. Even the way I speak has defined me. Defined me as what? My skin is not dark. My hair is kinky, and I am an aspiring writer, with good […]

The post Being Mixed is Not Easy appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Dark Skin, Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By:Ireti Akinrinade My father is from Nigeria and my mother is from New York. I am much darker than my straight-from-Africa father, and it has impacted me much in the way most people who suffer from colorism are impacted. There is a feeling that comes from realizing that you’re different and the cultural stigma and […]

The post Learning to Love my Black Skin appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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Dark Skin, Life as a Black Girl, Self-Esteem -

By:Petrena Notice The melanin in my skin seems to be a problem. Though not to me, at least not anymore, the society that I live in sees it as the lower ranking color. Black is not beautiful, it is not as beautiful as those with blond hair and blue eyes. Beauty should have no color, […]

The post My Blackness is Nothing to Run away From appeared first on MyBlackMatters.

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