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The Destructive Cycle of Playing Small

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The Destructive Cycle of Playing Small

There are so many reasons why, as Black women, we tend to play small in our lives and businesses.

And by “playing small,” I mean all those times that we dim our light, downplay our gifts and shrink to make other people feel comfortable.

We are taught to “be humble.”

We are taught not to be “too loud.”

We are taught, essentially, not to be too much, not to get too big, not to become too successful.

Or else…what?

We won’t be liked?

We won’t receive love?

We won’t be accepted?

I remember an ex of mine telling me that he wished I was more of a “plain Jane” and not always “doing so much” all the time.

This was over 10 years ago, when I was literally just getting started in my career. But even then, he couldn’t handle my light.

It was in that moment I chose not to believe that having a man was more important than walking in my purpose and following my dreams.

I vowed that I would always choose ME over everything.

You’re probably here in my tribe because deep down, you know that playing small just so you will be liked, loved and accepted is a losing game.

Because if people can’t deal with who you really are, then they shouldn’t be in your life anyway!

At the end of the day, you will only feel resentment towards the people in your life who you perceive are trying to hold you back.

Because you know you’re capable of so much more.

Yet you keep letting yourself down.

You keep sabotaging your success.

You keep saying NO to your desires.

You keep delaying your happiness.

You keep stopping yourself from taking the leap.

And that’s the real betrayal.

“They” can talk about you behind your back.

“She” can stop being friends with you.

“He” could leave you.

But what happens when YOU leave you?

You literally have nothing left.

Your real self goes to sleep and your soul suffers.

So how do you stop this destructive cycle of playing small?

First, you must release the idea that it’s even possible for you to be “too” anything.

You have been given the gifts, talents, skills, ideas and desires that are inside of you for a reason!

No one outside of you could ever comprehend your FULL potential.

No one but you and God know what you are TRULY capable of.

That’s why you can’t be worried about what other people think!

It’s up to you to step into the truth that you were meant to be, do and have MORE than you are currently experiencing now.

It’s time to transform your mindset and get out of your own way so that you can fulfill your purpose and finally become the woman you were meant to be.

It’s time to stop settling for a “normal” life and give yourself permission to have it ALL.

No longer do you have to be held back by the limiting beliefs that you’ve been taught.

You can DECIDE – right here and right now – to have a different life.

And when you do that – when you act from courage instead of fear?

That’s when you will inspire so many others to do the same.


P.S. You belong with a tribe of fellow dreamers and doers who “get you” and are committed to playing a BIGGER game in their lives and businesses.

That’s why I’m inviting you to join me LIVE and in-person for my 2019 Manifest Your Vision 3-Day Mindset Retreat being held January 11-13 in Fort Lauderdale, Florida!

This is a 3-day transformational experience where you will ignite your purpose, create your vision, break through your barriers and take inspired action to achieve your big goals for 2019.



⭐ 3 Days of Personal Development, Self-Care, Goal-Setting and Planning Workshops

⭐ Dedicated Time for Journaling and Reflection

⭐ Workshops with Special Guest Speakers​

⭐ Live Group Coaching with Happy Black Woman Founder Rosetta Thurman

⭐ “Ignite Your Purpose” Personal Mission Statement Workshop

⭐ Vision Board Party and Pajama Jam on Friday​

⭐ “Breakthrough Your Barriers” Board-Breaking Experience on Saturday

⭐ Beautiful Retreat Workbook Including All Training Materials

⭐ NEW THIS YEAR: “Health & Wellness Track” with Morning Yoga & Fitness Boot Camp Available

Plus, these valuable bonuses!

🤩 BONUS #1: Discounted Bring-a-Friend Tickets (You Must Register Yourself First to Get the Special Registration Link!)

🤩 BONUS #2: Discounted Room Rate at Our Host Hotel


Remember – I only host this event ONCE per year in Florida. This is your chance to attend the Manifest Your Vision 3-Day Mindset Retreat for 2019 AND save 50% off with our special discount when you register now. (The investment will go UP by another $200 soon, so this is the LOWEST price available.)

P.P.S. Need a payment plan? Girl, we got you!

If you would like to take advantage of our convenient 3-pay plan, click the big green “Register Now” button on the registration page. Once you are on the payment page, you will be able to choose the 3-pay option so you can spread out your investment over the next 3 months! The payments are processed in 30-day increments.


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